Confidence issues is one of the biggest problems currently facing high school students. Many of us just want to be like our peers, who might or might not be popular.
Matter of fact, I’ve had people walk up to me saying,
“Geary, I have little confidence.”
We need confidence in order to be successful in our lives. Without confidence it would be harder to talk to people, get in a relationship, and take on challenging events, which is essential for success.
Let’s look at my 8 tips for teens struggling with confidence:
Everyone struggles with confidence at some point.
Even the people you think have unstoppable confidence , struggled at some point before they were ever known as confident.
It’s part of human nature. We all have doubts, worries, fears, and negative thoughts going on in our heads. But it is if we let that affect us. I’m a pretty confident guy, and after all this praise saying,
“You’re so confident, I wish I could be like that.”
I still have second thoughs, like I might be an imposter or something. So , don’t let your current confidence situation let you down because. . .
Everyone’s been through it.
2. Always stay positive.
Let’s face it. There are going to be many, many days when we’re all feeling like crap, but it won’t last forever.
So when we’re having a day when we feel like we should just yell at everybody and hide in our room, realize that. . .
It will only make things worse.
For example when I had bad days, all I used to do was get on my phone for hours and not do anything because I was such in an awful mood.
And when I wake up the next day, I felt like crap because I decided to stay in that negative headspace.
Matter of fact, wanna know the true reason positive people are always positive?
They are always positive because even when they know they are going through one of the toughest times of their life, they still decide to be optimistic.
Here are some examples I use when I’m going through negative times:
I write and say what I’m grateful for right now.
I take the tough period as an obstacle to success , not a reason you’re a failure
Now, I’m not perfect, but I strive to be, and that’s what you should do too. Because nobody’s perfect, but successful and admired people aim for that while making and learning from their mistakes.
I used to be such a negative person, but now I’m that type of person that is always bursting with positivity because of these simple , easy steps I mentioned above.
3. Imagine yourself as the King/ Queen of the World
This one might sound confusing, I can already imagine the questions you readers might ask:
This tip sounds very confusing, how do you do that?
What do you mean?
What is this guy talking about?
But, trust me, it works. Let’s understand why?
The human mind is powerful. Matter of fact, so powerful that it doesn’t really think in words, instead it thinks in images.
I’ll give you an example:
When I say apple, you’re 100% likely going to image an apple in your head.
When I say delicious food, you’re automatically going to image the most delicious food you’ve ever eaten.
Boom! Now you get the concept.
I said king/queen of the world because that’s how we imagine confidence. Respect, honor, and swagger are all qualities of a king or queen of a monarchy.
Let me guide you through this:
- Close your eyes and imagine yourself as the most respected , good looking , stylish, and most amazing person you’ve ever seen. Act like you just saw yourself from another pair of eyes.
- Hold that image and add anything else if you wish.
- Now you’re done
Do this every single day, and leave me a comment down below on how it affected your life. . .
4. Act like you’re already confident
“Act confident, even when you’re not.”
– Larry Ellison
This tip kinds of solves the mystery puzzle of tip #3 because you have to both imagine and act with confidence in order to achieve some sort of confidence.
In order to act with confidence, have body language of confident people. For example, stand tall, speak slowly, and keeping your head high are great ways to act with confidence. For more ways , click here.
Matter of fact, body language is one of the most powerful ways of communication. Nonverbal communication is over 90% of communication, which means a lot.
Here’s a video clip from Amy Cuddy I linked to show proof.
To sum it all up it just means:
“Fake it till you make it.”
-Mary Kay Ash
5. Challenge yourself constantly
In order to get better as a person , you need to constantly challenge yourself. For example, look at a bodybuilder. They put their muscles under pressure in order to maintain that physique. That’s what we should do to our brain too.
Here are some simple, but daring ways to challenge yourself:
- Social- Give people compliments
- Academic- Take the hardest classes you can find
- Physical- Lift more or do more than what you normally do
- In General- Start a new habit
The best of the best find ways to constantly put themselves under vulnerability.
As Brene Brown said:
“Vulnerability is not weakness. And that myth is profoundly dangerous.”
6. Say positive things about yourself
Otherwise known as affirmations, they are a powerful tool for rapidly increasing confidence. Over time, they will slip into your subconscious which will influence the way you act and think.
This is my affirmation list:
- I am fearless.
- I am confident
- I am the best
- I always assume the best
You can use mine, or create your own. It doesn’t really matter. All that matters is that you find some positive, encouraging affirmations , and be persistent. Although it may be hard at first, if you keep going you will have a more confident image of yourself.
7. Hang out with people who lift you up
You all(or should) have friends. They might share the same hobbies, interests, and culture, but if they don’t treat you right; you should leave them. They might say something behind your back for abandoning them , but guess what:
You did the right thing by leaving them
Instead, hang with positive and confident people. Be with people more confident than you , so you can learn their tricks and actions that make them the way they are.
” You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”
Sometimes , we don’t know if they’re good friends or not.
So let me ask you a couple questions:
- Do you have a feeling of dread when you meet with your friends?
- Do your friends make you do bad things ?
- Do your friends talk behind your back?
If you said yes to all those questions I asked:
Say goodbye, because they’re not your true friends.
I know it’s going to be hard finding new friends, but it’s the best thing to do in order to maintain your confidence.
8. Don’t care about everybody else’s opinion
This used to be one of my biggest barriers to confidence.
I used to care about what the guy next door or behind me might say if I did something I wanted to do. . .
And that bothered me a lot.
But, then I realized that people really don’t care what you do because they’re also worried about what others think of them.
So, I just started doing the things I wanted to do. . .
And the people who I thought were going to care, really didn’t.
And if they did, it meant they were insecure about themselves.
Just realize that although some people might care, it would only be for 5 seconds and then they will move on.
Although school’s over, guess what?
I want you guys to apply at least 2 of these, and alert me how it changed you in the comments below. . .
There is no due date by the way 😉
Stay up guys.
“You are the only person on earth who can use your ability,”
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