As I said in some of my other posts, in the past I struggled with my mental health.
But, before all that, let’s describe how I developed it.
I was in the 5th grade and about 10 years old. I looked kind of like this:
I remember that I did something really crazy, and I got in trouble for it.
My parents ridiculed me for it, my classmates, and so much other people.
It made me feel like I was worthless, which was a bad sign.
The part that made it more interesting was:
A couple months later, me and my family moved.
We moved to a different town with different people, and different things.
I remember I was so mad when I knew that I was moving away.
I mean, I had so many friends, family members, and old traditions that I would miss.
Which made things worse. . .
For a while, I was ok , but I still had the same insecurities.
Then 6th grade arrived. . .
Again, I had to deal with the same things. I went to a school on the other side of town and I didn’t know anybody.
I felt lost and alone, and I thought no one would help me.
And that’s when I started to have negative thoughts. . .
I was overwhelmed, afraid, fearful, scared, and anything else negative.
The good part about my 6th grade year was that I met many people, and I had many new experiences.
Now 7th grade year:
In the last 3 years, I went to 3 different schools.
That meant after 6th grade, I moved to a new school.
Now, this was better. I mean I knew some people(like 3), which made the welcoming a little more familiar to me.
I hanged out with those familiar people , and it turned out they were some bad influences on me, but I didn’t want to be alone.
They would talk about me, and act rudely toward me, but I still thought of them as my friends.
The weird part was that to them I was unique, and they didn’t like that trait in me.
But as I said, they were still my “friends”.
8th grade year
Now , I was comfortable. I knew a lot of people, and a lot of people knew me.
But, I still had those same friends.
When I hung out with them, I started to notice why I should leave them:
- I got into a fight that year
- They did drugs, which I didn’t do
- They still talked about me
So, I decided to try something new:
I decided to try a new group of people as my companions.
To be honest, it didn’t go too well.
When I tried to hang out with new people, it was hard because most of them didn’t have the same interests as me or look like me.
What I meant by that: I went to a majority white school.
There were black people, but it was weird because I’m the child of African immigrants who migrated to America , while they were descendants of people who were brought to America years ago , so I was kind of like “meh.”
High School – Freshman
My freshman year gave me a new start. I knew I was going to recognize some people because I either went to middle school or elementary school with them, and I was kind of familiar with the school because I went to work out over there almost every day during the summer.
So, it was alright.
I played basketball , and I met tons of amazing people.
But, I was insecure which set me back HARD. . .
I saw people with girlfriends , and I wanted that kind of attention.
Now, I was a quiet guy, so I decided to act like a jerk for a while and see how it went:
It went awful.
Although I gained a reputation, I was made fun of almost every single day, which diminished my self-esteem.
It was exactly like freshman year, but that made me realize something:
I realized that I couldn’t live like this if I wanted to be happy, so I started to slowly change. . .
I got into personal development, and started to be more aware of my mental health.
Although I was in pretty good shape(physically), I clearly realized that my confidence was being neglected.
So that summer, I decided I needed to take things into my own hands and not depend on others. . .
The journey[still continuing]
I watched motivational Youtube videos on people who went through similar things like I did. . .
I would consume loads of information on how to improve confidence , and how to be successful.
I eventually turned those inspirational people into my virtual friends, and I would listen and read their content daily.
Sooner or later, I started acting like those people, which helped me start this blog!
And after devouring a whole bunch of articles, books, and videos, I realized that they all had one thing in common:
They constantly took action, and when they struggled , they always looked up.
Let’s be blunt here: life sometimes sucks. But, it is if we let that affect us in a good way or a bad way.
You can either be a smiley face or a frowning face, no matter what kind of situation.
I also learned another thing:
Focus on the things you can control , and not what you can’t control.
Examples of what you can’t control would be:
- Other peoples’s opinions of you
- What you look like
- Your family
That’s it! But, it’s definitely hard for sure .
For example, the reason I struggled with my mental health in the past was because of example #1.
I always cared about what other people thought of me, and I didn’t even consider the most opinion of all: mine.
So when I took some dang action, and stopped caring about what other people thought, my life changed for the better.
What molded into me when I started this journey.
I turned from an always negative, pessimistic type of guy to a person filled with optimism and confidence.
Back then, I was the type of guy who always smiled, but inside I really didn’t mean it.
I also began to notice that life will always throw things at you, and you’ll just have to persist and stay positive.
Or you can look up to the greats like I did, doesn’t really matter.
I know it’s obvious, but
“There’s always going to be obstacles in life.”
It’s the most perfect time to say. . .
The homework is to share me a quote that inspires you to take action and do what you love in the comments below. . .
Hopefully you do it, because:
Take it easy and enjoy life!
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